Are you tired of doing the same thing every dag’on day? You love your family but maybe you want a little ‘me-time’ to decompress and relax. You just want a chance
to run away and never come back escape for a bit to refocus and re-energize yourself. It’s time to create a little ‘me-time.’
Well, if you’re all about wanting some well-deserved ‘me-time,’ then I’m writing to you mama-sister-friend. Here are 5 steps to help you create a “me-time” schedule.
Step 1. Put Mama First
Yea, I’ve heard it before. It’s impossible. I can’t put myself first and be a good wife and mom… Let me stop you right there. You can and after reading this post, I truly hope you will start. Mama, you are the heart and central command center of your home. I don’t care if you’re a stay at home mom or you work 60 gazillion hours a week (yep, I said it, 60 gazillion). Your family depends on you to be on your A game (or at least in the B range).
It’s hard to be your best when you’re not taking care of your heart. Same is true for your family. If the heart isn’t healthy, the family is weak. So, to take care of your family, you have a responsibility to put yourself first and take care of you.
Here’s how you do that.
Step 2. Get Supported
Your body isn’t a one organ job; you have highly important organs that support your body. The same is true in your life and for your family. Who supports you and your family? Is it a spouse, a parent, an aunt, a good friend, a trusted babysitter? Whoever it is, find that person. They are your “get out of the house free card.”
If you don’t have a person, find some support. Everyone needs someone and when mama needs a break, you need a little support.
Step 3. Make A Plan
Mama, if you have young children, you know you just can’t throw up the deuces, hop in your car, and roll out (makes for a great daydream though right?) You’ve got to plan.
Hear me when I say this: You need to have a plan to make sure you don’t come back to more work than you left. When I leave, I think food for kiddos, food for dad, clothes, hair (I have a little girl), and emergency contact info.
The Kid Explanation
If your kids aren’t used to someone else caring for them, they need an explanation. I learned this one the hard way. I had a glorious afternoon away and then I was up all night because my little one had nightmares. She wasn’t used to me leaving.
The Meal Plan
If you have little ones and/or you’re breastfeeding, you need to plan to leave some food, a schedule, and instructions. Who gets what food, when do they eat, and how much do they eat. This will save you from having potentially hungry kids (who also won’t sleep well). And if you’re on any kind of budget, leave food for dad/your support giver. This keeps the house reasonably clean and the fridge stock in pretty tact.
In Case of Emergency
Finally, leave emergency contact information (yep, even for dads) in the off chance that sort of thing is needed. In emergency situations, it’s just easier to refer to a piece of paper. Anything that saves times could potentially save a life.
Ok, so a lot of you may have just read this step and thought, well dag’on, she’s OCD. You’re totally right. I am. My oldest child will be 3 this year and other than the few days I was in the hospital to have baby #2, I have not had a full night away from them. I’m planning on a glorious weekend away though.
This is just how I plan for a day away. Can you image my prep for a night away?
Step 4. Set up a Structure to Win.
So, back in step #1, I talked about putting mama first. The first time you start taking time for yourself, you may find your well-being has totally tanked. Any amount of self-care will feel amazing and once it’s over, “you’ll think ‘me-time, done.” Here’s where we screw up. Self-care or well-being, whatever you want to call it, is a continuous kinda thing. You can’t do it once and think it’s done.
In step 4, you need to set up a structure to continually take care of yourself. I like to get my nails done every other week. I like to meet up with friends for coffee once a week. These are some of my structures. They keep me sane. Now, think of things you want or need to keep yourself sane. What kind of structures could you put in place to make sure you got some regular time to do things that make you feel good?
Step 5. Share the love!
Self-care is amazing, and once you get the first four steps down, you’ll feel better than you’ve felt in a long time mama. You’ll be a better more energized you, and a calmer more energized wife and mom. It’s a win-win.
Here’s the rub, you’ve got to share this information. More moms need to know that it’s ok to take care of themselves. More husbands need their wives to let them go do the things they love too. Being a parent (for dads and moms) is one of the hardest jobs on this planet, and to be the loving and calm parents we want to be, self-care is a must.
What do you do when you need some personal time away from the family to rejuvenate and relax? Do you have a ‘me-time’ schedule or do you just suffer in silence?
Will you help another mom and share this post?