So you’re a new mompreneur and you love your business, but you’re not making a whole lot of money. Sometimes you look at your business, your non-existent income, and all of the stuff you still don’t understand, and you feel like a fraud. And you find yourself asking, Why would anyone hire me? To get through those low moments, here are 10 mompreneur confidence hacks when you feel like a fraud.
1. Examine the facts
This may seem a bit naive, but it’s helpful, really. Take a second and just look at the facts. Are you in business? Are you new to entrepreneurship? Do you have business goals? Are you creating products or services? Have you asked anyone to test the products or services for free? What have they thought and what feedback did they provide?
If you can answer any or all of these questions then you’re most definitely NOT a failure. I would venture to say you’re just in process. You’re in the creative process. If you can look at the list of questions above and see things that you haven’t done, get to work. You’re not going to be a success if you don’t do the work.
So the next time you feel like a fraud, take a step back and examine the facts. Feeling like a fraud is temporary. It’s what my former life coach, Ileana Ferreras, used to call false evidence appearing real (FEAR). Feeling like a fraud is just a whole lota fear.
Next time, shake off the FEAR with facts. Facts never lead you wrong.
2. Everyone starts at the beginning.
This is a great sentence to print and post near your work area (or tape on the back of your laptop).
Everyone starts at the beginning.
And you’re no different than anyone else. You have to start from the beginning too. Sometimes the beginning is slow and icky, especially if you want to start your business and somehow skip over all of the learning and growing pains to the massive cash windfall and recognition that comes with the time and work that it takes to create.
You’re a mama, you didn’t just get pregnant one minute and have that baby the next month! You waited and nurtured that little baby in your body for 40 weeks before you ever met face to face.
This leads me to my next confidence hack for you.
3. Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.
In Tim Hiller’s book Strive: Life is Short, Pursue What Matters he says:
Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle, or your middle to someone else’s end. Don’t compare the start of your second quarter of life to someone else’s third quarter.”
As a rule, comparing yourself or your business to anyone else is a recipe for bad feelings. Don’t do it. Just be yourself. Do you. You are only a personal journey that only you can walk. It may take you 10 months to meet your business goals while it takes someone else 5 years (or vice versa).
Be kind to yourself and remember you are walking a path that is meant for you. Embrace your path and keep striving for your goals. Don’t let your circumstances deter you.
4. Visualize the future you’re working toward
This may sound a little “woo woo” to some of you but it works for me and is one of my daily practices. Every day, I take a few minutes to visualize how I want my business to look and how that business success will impact my family, me, and all of the people who I am able to bless with my gifts and talents.
For me, that looks like inspiring women from all walks of life and all over the world to start online businesses and create more flexibility, income, and financial independence for themselves and their kids. I want to see mothers fulfilled professionally while still being able to take an hour or two sit on the floor with their kids and play.
Those are the types of things I visualize because those are my personal and professional goals for my business, to create financial independence for my family and to support other women to do the same.
Practice visualization for a few minute a day. Even two minutes will help you. And as you build a muscle around visualization, you may choose to visualize for five or ten minutes.
Hear me out. I’m no advocating visualization for the sake of visualization, but when you feel like a fraud, visualization may help shake you out of it.
Give it a shot.
5. Do the unthinkable, and share it.
When we start to feel inadequate, we automatically shut down and isolate ourselves from others. We don’t automatically share our feelings of inadequacy; we hide them. Break the mould. Be brave and share your feelings with other mompreneurs.
Join a Facebook group. There are plenty of mompreneur Facebook Groups out there. If you’re already a member of a Mompreneur Facebook Group and you usually just lurk and read other people’s posts, do something new and post a new thread or comment on someone else’s question.
If you have other mompreneur buddies, call a friend.
My point here is don’t allow yourself to wallow in that feeling alone. Share it with a friend and let them help you dig yourself out of the negative hole you’ve fallen in.
6. Accomplish ONE New Thing.
In my experience, feeling like a fraud is usually directly related to having not been productive. A quick fix for that is to identify ONE thing you can sit down and complete.
The feeling of completing something, following through on an action, and finally crossing it off of a to-do list is one of the most rewarding feelings (for me).
It’s a quick and easy way to wash away negative feelings and create a fresh perspective for yourself.
7. Find A Course
All of us have areas in our lives and in our businesses where we could benefit from learning a bit more. There’s nothing wrong with admitting you want to learn more about a certain topic related to your business. In fact, it’s an honorable thing to identify an area where you could use some improvement and take action.
The act of finding a course to help you learn more about a given subject matter is a wonderful way to allay feelings of unease or feelings of failure.
8. Review (or create) monthly goals
When you feel like a fraud you’d generally think that reviewing your monthly goals (which you may not be meeting) is only going to make you feel worse.
Ok, so in the short term, maybe you’ll feel worse. However, if you review your monthly income goals or create them if you don’t have them, you can create a realistic plan for achieving that income goal.
It may be that you need to focus on promotions a little differently or you may need to do more content creation. The thing is, only have you look at your goal and compare it to your reality, will you have (even) a clue about how to start working to achieve your goals.
When you have a goal and you create a realistic plan to achieve that goal, you start to feel better because you have a realistic plan that you can commit to achieving AND you start to realize how possible your goals are.
9. Join A Mastermind Group
Working with other mompreneurs (in person and online) is an amazing feeling. A Mastermind Group can be paid or free, and it’s a group of entrepreneurs who are looking for support, encouragement, and to network with like-minded entrepreneurs who are more advanced than they are or just starting out.
The more you network, the more you realize it’s not about how much experience you have or how long you’ve been in business, it’s about the person. And each person has different talents and skills to offer in any situation.
When you’re feeling down, a group like this is an amazing resource to dissect your business and laser in on the areas that may not be working optimally.
Mastermind groups are a bit tricky to find but ask around in your existing networks and if all else fails, create your own.
10. Have a naked dance party or exercise
I mentioned this early but feeling like a fraud is your mind doing tricks on you. You are not a fraud, and you just need to shake off that negative energy. So if none of the tips above work for you have a naked dance party in the privacy of your room or a go exercise (preferably with clothes).
Remember, this feeling you’ve got going is temporary. Don’t treat a temporary feeling like a permanent problem. Let it go ask quickly as it arrived. Hopefully, these ten tips will help you shake off the feelings of fraud and embrace the fact that wherever you are in your business is exactly where you’re supposed to be right now. We all learn at different places and in the next moment, things could be totally different.
Being a mompreneur is a rollercoaster, just hold on!
What do you do when you feel like a fraud in your business or things aren’t going the way you want? Leave a comment below.